tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.comments2022-06-07T10:09:51.802-07:00Coping with MiscarriageRachelle Christensenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-8922811290987437472012-04-02T10:21:53.410-07:002012-04-02T10:21:53.410-07:00I got your book at the local ladies night. I had m...I got your book at the local ladies night. I had my third miscarriage in dec. As my heart is still healing from it. It's hard because it was my furthest along loss. I'm only half way thru your book but I'm enjoying it. Thank you for writing it.Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05080729712079018196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-76519413858755242882011-01-03T01:27:11.304-08:002011-01-03T01:27:11.304-08:00so sadso sadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-69409691449415967112010-12-10T22:00:48.396-08:002010-12-10T22:00:48.396-08:00You are an icredibly gifted woman. There are not ...You are an icredibly gifted woman. There are not too many people who can spin a tale web. Good for you to recognize that. It is so very difficult where our lives do not take us where we think they should. I can understand what you are saying. And I can also recognize that this does not define you.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03657111728721119197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-29807568962298995182010-11-18T19:50:13.267-08:002010-11-18T19:50:13.267-08:00Thank you Cheri and Anthony. I'm glad you foun...Thank you Cheri and Anthony. I'm glad you found this helpful.<br />Anthony, my prayers are with you and your wife during this difficult time.Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-76267890877442739832010-11-18T14:54:46.693-08:002010-11-18T14:54:46.693-08:00Thank you for your post. My wife had a miscarriag...Thank you for your post. My wife had a miscarriage this week. I thankfully have friends who have been through this. But I was trying to be strong for my wife. Her father came halfway across the country to take care of her. I decided to "be responsible" and return to work today. It's been less than 48 hours since that time, I came home at 2pm after just 5 hours of work because while there the depression had gotten so bad it affected my work. I realized on my way home that I physically, mentally and emotionally needed to take MY time. I am grateful for those who remember it's hard on the guys too. Especially in the emotional department because while our body isn't trying to recover, we're worried about our better half, and how she is doing with all of it.<br /><br />Thank you so much for posting this article.Anthony Haganoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-15901202152727050442010-11-07T07:44:18.931-08:002010-11-07T07:44:18.931-08:00I've never known this pain, though I only had ...I've never known this pain, though I only had one child and always thought I'd have at least two.<br /><br />My main character, VK, has a miscarriage and can't have children - it was one of the saddest chapters, and one of the most difficult, to write - would I honor it? would I get it right? would I know how to write such pain and sorrow? <br /><br />I love how you looked through your pain to the other side . . .with hope and even a way to see joy and especially how you see your worth--as you should.Kathryn Magendiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12863595228298349863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-7422902303688766252010-07-14T14:55:15.962-07:002010-07-14T14:55:15.962-07:00Thanks, Andrea. It was difficult and yet healing t...Thanks, Andrea. It was difficult and yet healing to write. I appreciate your kind comment.Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-41954920811833050462010-07-14T10:31:44.456-07:002010-07-14T10:31:44.456-07:00What an awesome post. Thank you so much for taking...What an awesome post. Thank you so much for taking the time and emotions to write this. It can't have been easy, but I'm so glad you did it.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05490759375036511747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-16841035080504024362010-06-18T20:19:39.830-07:002010-06-18T20:19:39.830-07:00Thank you, Rachelle. It's important to remembe...Thank you, Rachelle. It's important to remember that men grieve differently, but that doesn't mean they hurt less. My hubby and I spent several quiet moments in tears together.Cheri Chesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03102570290810616371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-86738085396510421472010-05-13T20:00:33.878-07:002010-05-13T20:00:33.878-07:00Danette,
Thanks for your comments. I'm sorry f...Danette,<br />Thanks for your comments. I'm sorry for your loss and understand what you mean about others' expectations for grieving. My book does include several different experiences from many women who also went through miscarriage.<br />I wish you the best of luck with this pregnancy.Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-27216946794117122752010-05-13T17:18:14.508-07:002010-05-13T17:18:14.508-07:00I have always wanted to make of book with stories ...I have always wanted to make of book with stories of other womens miscarriages. Just reading about other stories seems to help and let you know that you are not alone. It would be nice to know that what you are feeling is normal. I would not only include their miscarriage story but also how they survived through it and how they where able later on to have a healthy baby.danettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09297255953481545458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-44895618158960305332010-05-13T17:12:43.385-07:002010-05-13T17:12:43.385-07:00I am glad you were able to write about miscarriage...I am glad you were able to write about miscarriages. I myself have suffered 3 of them. I am currenely 24 weeks pregnant with my 5th child. I have been pregnant 8 times. I think for me one of the hardest things about miscarriages in the church is not knowing for sure what that baby needed to receive a spirt, and than and on top of that family member that believe differently than you do. Most my family believes that the baby needs to take a breath to receive the spirit. Another thing that is hard is grieving your loss. People think you should be over it quick. I lost my 3rd last June was by far one of the hardest things I have had to do. Come to find out my sister thinks I was selfish durning the whole thing.danettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09297255953481545458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-11444405430893250612010-05-06T11:00:51.414-07:002010-05-06T11:00:51.414-07:00I believe you are doing good work, and even more -...I believe you are doing good work, and even more - very important work. Congratulations on the book, I intend on checking it out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-68701541664123273282010-02-20T04:12:44.535-08:002010-02-20T04:12:44.535-08:00You are really a delicate and very sensible writer...You are really a delicate and very sensible writer, dear Rachelle. I would like to publish in CHMagazine some of your articles of here and much more. <br />Have an excellent weekend with your family, dear Rachelle, and take care,<br /><br />Daniel D.P., writer and editorDaniel Dragomirescuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00890240631124286684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-70640463473880907482010-01-27T19:40:55.075-08:002010-01-27T19:40:55.075-08:00Cindy, I like that idea. Thanks for the suggestion...Cindy, I like that idea. Thanks for the suggestion and thanks for stopping by. :)Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-29809453514453516432010-01-27T16:26:24.693-08:002010-01-27T16:26:24.693-08:00Good suggestions in here. I like, "Would you ...Good suggestions in here. I like, "Would you like a hug?" because most people need one and very few will say no.Cindy Beck, authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16915624341543651886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-12814346391483144042009-12-22T11:55:39.755-08:002009-12-22T11:55:39.755-08:00"Life doesn't always cooperate with my pl..."Life doesn't always cooperate with my plans but I can still find joy in the present." -- Beautiful!!! Thank you :)Coachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02995847997453750447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-15405953784187824472009-10-08T09:08:03.281-07:002009-10-08T09:08:03.281-07:00Danette,
I'm sorry for your pain. You do have ...Danette,<br />I'm sorry for your pain. You do have a right to be sad. Even if you had 12 kids already, the baby you lost is still your baby. Yes, I agree it's important to be grateful for what we do have, but it's okay to mourn.<br />I think what you mentioned was one of the hardest things for me--trying to get pregnant and thinking that I should already be holding my baby now.<br />You're in my thoughts and thank you for sharing.Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-69969743315109962432009-10-08T08:29:52.496-07:002009-10-08T08:29:52.496-07:00I just had my 3rd miscarriage 4 months ago. I do ...I just had my 3rd miscarriage 4 months ago. I do have 4 healthy children. I at time feel like I do not have the right to be sad because I already have 4 kids. Truth is though that I am sad. On top of having a miscarriage, trying to get pregnant again when you should already be pregnant is really hard too. <br /><br />Danettedanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09297255953481545458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-20188003335112025372009-10-06T16:10:31.262-07:002009-10-06T16:10:31.262-07:00It's so true each woman needs & deserves h...It's so true each woman needs & deserves her own way to mend her heart. She just needs the right kind of support to help her through it. Thank you for your work, Rachelle!Coachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02995847997453750447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-44833945707870309982009-10-03T19:25:59.818-07:002009-10-03T19:25:59.818-07:00Thank you, Cindy. I'm so thankful for those pe...Thank you, Cindy. I'm so thankful for those people who do understand.Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-42065406859278486152009-10-03T17:54:49.992-07:002009-10-03T17:54:49.992-07:00For people to suggest that you should "get ov...For people to suggest that you should "get over it" is cruel. The children lost in a miscarriage are a part of you and you have the right to remember them forever. And every woman should have the right to take as long as needed to grieve the loss of the life (or lives)of which they were about to be a part.Cindy Beck, authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16915624341543651886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-83233270861259870172009-09-29T12:44:52.422-07:002009-09-29T12:44:52.422-07:00Thank you so much for your thoughts, Cindy and Dia...Thank you so much for your thoughts, Cindy and Dianne. :)Rachelle Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522589944408062365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-16230212141268352792009-09-28T17:44:43.794-07:002009-09-28T17:44:43.794-07:00I had a miscarriage 36 years ago, and it's not...I had a miscarriage 36 years ago, and it's not something that a woman forgets. I choose to beleive that my baby is in the hands of God. God has big hands so that we can put our cares and concerns and our miracle babies their, and know that they are loved. Dianne Davisdiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15661476715274754681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2902178781339052177.post-41895571243517817562009-09-25T14:36:57.104-07:002009-09-25T14:36:57.104-07:00Rachelle, this blog will be a God send to someone ...Rachelle, this blog will be a God send to someone searching for answers. I also am part of this group. I went through 5 years of infertility, then during my first pregnancy my son Matthew, was stillborn at 35 weeks, and then in 2006 I miscarried a baby at 11 weeks. I know about the heartache and the questions a woman has about why this is happening to her. I look forward to reading your book.Why Not? Because I Said So!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12875366296917497497noreply@blogger.com